We’ve all heard the expressions, “It’s all about you!” as a derogatory statement when it seems someone is focused on themselves. But my question is, who should we be focus on? We all come into this life with our body, personality, spirit that is ours to care for and make the best of. Our goal is to grow and learn to be the best “us” we can be. Second question: if we aren’t taking care of ourselves that who is doing that?
Long way around saying, that focusing on ourselves is of prime importance. Paying attention to what works for us and what doesn’t helps us to live a better life. When we do that we naturally give back from the overflow. People who don’t take care of themselves have to get nurture from somewhere so they will take it indirectly from others but giving but then manipulating those given to. It’s not that those are bad people it simply points to the fact that we all need care and attention and nurture and we will get it one way or another, consciously or unconsciously.
My point of view is take care of yourself first. The only difference would be if there is an infant or a puppy or someone who is critically ill. Then their needs are of paramount importance but even there to keep going there has to be breaks where you take care of yourself.
So, how do you take care of you? What do you need to feel good and to function at your best? Is a certain amount of alone time? Is it so many hours of sleep and/or rest? Is it eating well and having a good exercise routine? Is it spending time with people you love and have a good time with? Is it being out in nature? Or a combination of the above? Only you can answer that. And, you know how you feel when you give yourself what you need.
At those times when you are full, the natural outcome is to share that good feeling with others and to give what is yours to give back.
When you feel deprived and you feel maxed out, there is very little to give to others. Like most of life, this is a marriage of opposites- take care of yourself first you have a lot to give. Take care of others first , you have to get nourishment from them or others.
Maybe this is a good time to stop and take inventory of what makes you happy? What makes you feel good? What helps you to function at your very best?
It turns out that taking care of yourself first is the most unselfish thing you can do because when you are feeling full your first desire is to share the feeling with others and you don’t need to get anything back from them because you already have what you need. What do you need?
Watch others who have discovered the secret to feeling alive and on purpose: www.transformationspodcast.com/ Interviews with World Changers. Be inspired!
My best to you
Dianne J. Shaver